I received a phone call last Saturday morning from my mother-in-law that changed my entire perspective on being a stay at home mom. I’ve been pondering her words for a little over a week now and I wanted to share my heart, in hopes it may encourage some of you.
(Before I get started, please know this is for the women who are working hard and not giving themselves credit, I stay home with Lilly right now; however, I know that every story is different. & I have so much respect for women working hard to provide for their families! Each story is different, this is just mine in this season of life.)
I answered the phone, thinking it would be a casual call, instead my heart was greatly inspired. She said to me, “Don’t feel bad when you tell me you haven’t done anything all day, because you’ve done so much more than ‘nothing.’ You’re raising a 10 month old daughter, you are never doing ‘nothing.‘”
Prior to this conversation, we had many others in which she asked how my day was and what we did that day, most times I would reply with a shameful laugh and word, “nothing.” (Meaning, I was home all day, rather than out running errands, etc.) At first I tried to deny feeling bad, but the more her words sank into my heart the more I realized I had slowly but surely fallen into the world’s idea of “being lazy” or “doing nothing.” The reality is, there is no such thing as having a lazy day when you’re a mom, (mama’s can I get an AMEN?!) Let’s be real here, most days I don’t make it out of the house until my husband gets home. It’s just the reality right now. And you know what? I wouldn’t change a single thing. I LOVE being a stay-at-home mom, in fact I love it so much I hope that never changes! Deep down I feel incredibly blessed that I get to stay home with my baby, and I never want to disguise that or feel ashamed when someone asks me what I did that day. I may not be being productive in the world’s eyes, but Lord knows I am being the best mom I can possibly be. No longer will I proclaim staying at home with Lilly all day is equivalent to doing “nothing.”
After she told me this I started thinking about all the things I WAS doing, and tried to forget about the things I WASN’T. I’m raising up a daughter of the KING and I don’t intend to take that responsibility lightly.
On a daily basis I am: speaking LIFE over her, changing dirty diapers, dancing around the living room like a crazy person just to make her laugh, making her food, chasing her down when she’s crawling to places she shouldn’t, laughing with her, trying not to shed tears when she gets hurt. I am running to her split seconds before tipping something over on herself, staring at her beautiful little face, kissing her until her cheeks might fall off, taking pictures of her trying to make time slow down, and gently trying to release her little yet strong hands from my hair. I’m attempting to put her down for a nap, watching Tinkerbell or Frozen with her, distracting her when she’s teething, learning patience, & cleaning the floors multiple times a day and wondering how she can still find something to pick up and put in her mouth.
Most importantly, I am loving on her with every ounce I have.
So to all the moms, future moms, or women who tend to not give themselves an ounce of credit for their hard work, here’s to you. Next time someone asks you what you did that day, hold your head up high and know in your heart, “I spent the day raising up a warrior for Jesus.” Can you imagine if we all started proclaiming the TRUTH instead of trying to hide our strengths?
Moral of the Story:
1. Never underestimate the power of an encouraging phone call.
2. Give yourself the credit you deserve, even if it feels uncomfortable at first.
3. Whatever your occupation or calling may be, don’t take it lightly. You are valued more than you know.
I had to add this video because oh man.. it made me laugh. I thought I’d share. 🙂